"Knowing yourself" - a philosophical journey

"Knowing yourself"- a philosophical journey 

                           Chapter-1

Description - This series of chapters  will help you to understand, tackle and to find solutions of your different psychological problems of life . It will also give you broader as well different perspectives of understanding .

"Know yourself" we listen this quote oftenly but do we really understand what actually it means? 

Is it talking about knowing your persona or emotions or something else ?

Well we can't put it within a word or a concept . But we can understand how it actually affects us as well as our surroundings . 

Sometimes we get into that kind of melancholy that we can't determine what to do and what to avoid ? We feel so lost that we feel worthless and forsaken. That's the situation where we can actually "know ourselves" or better I say we can " find ourselves ". 

What's never lost can never be found.

We handle these situations being in too much emotions and having fear of multiple consequences. We hardly do something what we actually wants and that leads to Chaos in many lives . The problem is that we let every thoughts that comes in our mind to become the fake reality that our brain accepts and do actually opposite to what we want .

 

A thought can become a belief when it is thought over and over and assigned truth. Beliefs create a lens through which you interpret the events of your world and this lens serves as a selective filter through which you sift the environment for evidence that matches up with what you believe to be true. Thoughts are cause and belief are consequences, you may let any thought go but when it becomes a belief it's hard to get rid of it 

• So not letting these random thoughts to become your belief could be first step towards knowing yourself .  

Now this thoughts don't comes alone from your own psychological states but can be influenced from surrounding environment, affected by recent/past events .

So what do we understand?  

You may listen to thousands of people everyday about different things but never let their thoughts to be imposed on you , sit for a moment and think Whether the decision that we are going to make is influenced by someone or it belongs our own ?

• Second things Whether our decision is affected by our past or current event or it's independent of it ? 

We can't actually understand or find ourselves unless we are not able to control the flow of thoughts and independency of our decisions from any factor. 

Now let's take an example to understand another essential factor,

 

Suppose you're are preparing for an unbiased exam and appeared for that but couldn't get the result as expected. What you gonna do ? some will bother the examiner or the question and most obvious the ' time ' that we couldn't enough time etc. But only few will accept the fact that we got the marks according to our deservance and we will improve it on the next .

The thing I want to emphasize here that we are not truthful to ourselves be it's matter of exams, relationships , carrier or life.

We either don't understand or keep denying the truth what we know, or may be we don't have the courage to accept it. 

Be it's accepting that we didn't do much efforts or We didn't actually want what we didn't get. 

There's nothing what we can't get what we aspire in this world but we can't actually aspire what we actually need .

Just imagine if we start so truthful to ourselves that we start taking responsibility of each and every decision, action and reactions we won't face any regret , we won't have any feeling of revange , or feeling of betrayal.

If you failed in a exam being truthful you analysed everything throughout and you found that you didn't give much time or you didn't actually want to pass the exam, etc. But finally you'll be satisfied with your state of mind now that state can bring the positive and essential change in your life. 

Take another case ,suppose someone harmed you by any means and you started just blaming yourself or that person but being faithful to yourself if you ask your inner conscious you'll get your answer just analyse all your actions and ask where it went wrong ? and finally make a decision and again the conditions applies here that your descision should be independent as I mentioned earlier.

Now what descision I'm talking about? Ofcourse it's about you , you don't have to take responsibility of someone else's deeds. You're totally independent of it as well as you also don't have the right to judge or take decisions on behalf of them.

Now the decision could be letting go or it could be talking to the person and find out, what went wrong ?

• So, The final goal is to get rid of your melancholy . But if you just kept that pain or feeling of betrayal or any means of harm , it will take the form of unnecessary and chaotic revange it can't be from the same person or different person or yourself too .

See how someone's activity affected you to become someone who you're not actually or simply I can say you lost yourself.......